It's not fun: December is supposed to be a month of festivities, but for many people, it's a time when they're more likely to feel depressed than usual.
Mental health conditions such as depression and anxiety can worsen in December due to issues such as financial pressures, family relationships, and social expectations, but there are coping mechanisms.
Clinical psychologist Chris Kemp says these feelings are normal at this time of year.
“Many people are struggling with feelings of loneliness and anxiety during this time. If you're feeling that way, even if you're feeling alone, you're not alone.
“There are a lot of people who feel the same way you do,” Kemp said.
The festive season is associated with joy and festivities with loved ones, but for some, these social expectations can cause pressure and feelings of isolation.
“Media and societal expectations portray this time of year as a time of celebration and connection, but for those who may be experiencing loneliness, unresolved grief, or rifts in family relationships, this stark contrast can be can increase feelings of loneliness and sadness,” said Anele, another clinical psychologist. Siswana.
Kathy Chambers, director of operations at the South African Depression and Anxiety Group (Sadag), said December is a time of remembrance for those who have lost a loved one.
“This will be the first or even the fifth Christmas after losing a loved one or perhaps dealing with financial stress. So this holiday season is going to look very different.” said Chambers.
In December, Sadag receives more calls from elderly people, many of whom are struggling with loneliness and depression because they have no children or family to visit.
On the other hand, visiting homes and families can trigger unresolved trauma and repressed emotions, Siswana said, adding that the “black tax” (how many black people provide financial support to their relatives) (an indication of whether a person feels obligated to do so) could cause further pressure, he added.
“This is considered to be one of the socially constructed ideas that promote mental health, and it's rooted in unreasonable expectations and demands from families,” he says.
Siswana says that year-end reflection can be helpful for depression because “focusing on perceived failures, missed opportunities, or unmet goals can exacerbate feelings of hopelessness and anxiety.” It added that it could cause.
“Financial stress is one of the most significant causes of mental health problems during the Christmas season. The pressure to spend on gifts, travel and celebrations can be overwhelming. there is.”
He said the reality of the “January blues”, where the economic burden spills over into the new year, is also weighing heavily on people's minds.
Kemp said acknowledging these feelings, rather than suppressing them, is the first step to easing the burden.
“When we talk about depression and low mood, we always want people to be close to their emotions. We want people to be able to recognize their emotions. I We don't want them to be forced aside.”
People should try the “opposite action” method – the opposite of what they want to do.
“Depression tends to make us depressed and do things that keep us stuck in that space.
“So instead of sitting in bed all day, not seeing people, not interacting enough, get up, get dressed, get out of bed, get out of the house, go somewhere nice. Do something simple like go or do something that nourishes your soul, or something that you enjoy. ”
People also need to embrace self-awareness and accept their emotions without judgment. Siswana said people need to set boundaries, say “no” to draining activities and stick to realistic budgets to protect their energy, finances and mental health.
It's also important to reflect on the past year, value progress over perfection, and plan small, achievable changes for growth in the new year, he added.
“It is also important to understand that being human means navigating both light and shadow, joy and pain.
“Feeling overwhelmed at certain seasons or moments in your life doesn't mean there's something wrong with you. It means you're living and processing, and that's okay.
“Life presents many challenges, including personal loss, family pressures, financial insecurity, and feelings of loneliness. And your reactions to these experiences are real and unique to you. ”
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